Emotional Intelligence has been around for many years but for many people it seems a little airy-fairy. This blogette is about how Emotional Intelligence can help people who are at the top of their game be more successful. Take two experienced qualified specialists in their fields, for example, two accountants…..they are both ready to become partners in the firm in terms of their technical expertise. They have the same experience, the same qualifications…..so who will get the partner position? It will be the individual who has the most Emotional Intelligence in most cases.
According to Daniel Goleman, the Emotional Intelligence guru, when comparing the performance of people in 80-90% of cases it is Emotional Intelligence not IQ that is the differentiating factor. Emotional Intelligence is the “Icing on the cake” in most cases.
Experience + Qualifications+ Healthy EI = Success
So what is your Emotional Intelligence like?
Although none of us are perfect and you like me may be a “work in progress” answering these questions will give you ideas about where you are Emotionally Intelligent and areas you can improve on. Knowing what to improve is a good starting point to becoming more successful. Have a go at these questions to assess your emotional intelligence….just score each question out of 10 ( 10 being perfect).
Are you self-aware?
How do you know?
Do you know what you are good at and what you need to improve?
Do you play to your strengths?
Can you admit to others what you need to improve?
Are you able to manage your moods / stresses/emotions?
Are you authentic and true to your values?
Can you adapt to change?
Do you have high personal standards?
Do you look for and seize opportunities?
Are you the “half-glass full” person or are you “half empty”?
Do you really listen to people?
Can you see the positive in everyone?
Do you foster brilliant relationships with others?
Do you share your vision with others?
Do you excite them with your vision?
Are you a good networker?
Could you be better?
Do you develop your team?
Are you a “can-do” person who is solutions focussed?
In a conflict do you look to be a “win-win” person?
Do you look to collaborate with others?
What did you notice about your responses to this small questionnaire?
Did you notice what you are very good at and also what you could improve on?
What do you need to do to improve?
Remember improving any of these areas will impact on your overall success. So if you want to be more successful then contact us on 07921613646
I often meet people who appear very confident but tell me that their confident is something they have learnt to do…..a bit like putting a mask on or an overcoat.
I also meet people who have learnt to act confident but are fed up of acting and want to be authentically confident.
So what is true confidence?
Is it the bubbly larger than life personality or the person who can talk to an audience with ease?
It can be hard to believe but the most overtly confident people are often those that lack confidence and have low self-esteem.
So what are the traits of authentically confident people?
1. Confident people don’t need to “bling themselves up”…. They have no need to brag, pretend or talk about themselves.
2. Confident people are “quiet” about their confidence…..they exude it without saying anything. They have a way of making people feel comfortable in their presence.
3. Confident people are self-aware about themselves and their impact on others.
4. Confident people accept themselves warts and all. They are not afraid to show that they are not perfect.
5. Confident people accept others for who they are and look at the positives in people.
6. Confident people have a “half-full” mind set – positive and healthy.
7. Confident positive people are “solutions focused” not “problem centric”.
8. Confident people make other people feel good about themselves. Confident people are very accepting of others.
9. Confident people have a can-do/ have a go mentality…..and if it doesn’t work they don’t beat themselves up about it.
10. Confident people accept compliments from others and appreciate that other people enjoy giving compliments.
TIME TO REFLECT: What do you do that shows people your authentic confidence? What do you need to do more of to be a real authentic confident person?
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