Different Strokes for Different Folks
We all need strokes, whether positive or negative.
The worse thing of all is no strokes
So what do I mean by strokes?
Strokes according to Eric Berne are “units of recognition”.
Every person has the need to be touched and to be recognised by other people.
This name “strokes” came from research which indicated that babies require touching in order to survive and grow. It apparently makes no difference whether the touching induces pain or pleasure – it is still important. On the whole we prefer to receive negative strokes than no strokes at all, at least that way we know we exist and others know we exist.
Strokes play a major part in motivation
and self-esteem for all of us
There are different categories of stroke
VERBAL – Hello how are you? NON VERBAL – A smile / frown
POSITIVE – I like you NEGATIVE – Stupid! ZERO – Ignoring someone
PLASTIC – not genuine – throwing marshmellows ( they melt quick!) CROOKED – Has a sting in the tail “If you did more of that you’d be great”
UNCONDITIONAL – I hate you when…. CONDITIONAL – I love you when……
What strokes have you received today? And what strokes have you given to others? How can you make a positive impact on someone tomorrow with the strokes you give?
Print article | This entry was posted by Denise on October 20, 2016 at 6:30 pm, and is filed under Personal Development. Follow any responses to this post through RSS 2.0. Both comments and pings are currently closed. |
Comments are closed.